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- We spend more time in listening to others than in any other type of communication.
- Listening and hearing are not the same thing because listening requires attending, understanding, responding, and remembering.
- Listening is not a natural process, nor do all speakers receive the same message from the same spoken communication.
- Listening requires effort to separate mindless listening from mindful listening.
- Too often we employ faulty listening behaviors that prevent understanding.
- Pseudolistening imitates paying attention but is not the real thing.
- Selective listeners respond only to parts that interest them, and defensive listeners are distrustful and suspicious.
- Ambushers set traps to attack, and insulated listeners avoid selected topics.
- Insensitive listeners take remarks at face value, and stage hogs are conversational narcissists.
- There are several reasons for poor listening.
- Message overload, rapid thought, and all three types of noise make for poor listening.
- Faulty assumptions, talking instead of listening, and cultural and media influences hinder effective listening.
- Not every one listens the same way. There are content-oriented, people-oriented, action-oriented, and time-oriented listeners.
- When you want to understand another person, you use informational listening.
- The steps of informational listening include not arguing or prejudging prematurely, separating the message from the speaker, and searching for value.
- Other components of informational listening are looking for key ideas, asking sincere questions not counterfeit questions, paraphrasing, and taking notes.
- When you listen to judge the quality of the message with a view to accepting or rejecting it, you employ critical listening.
- Reserve judging credibility until you are certain you understand the message.
- Look for credible support by examining the speaker's evidence and reasoning. Examine the emotional appeals that may influence your ability to apply logic.
- The goal of one very important communication skill, supportive listening, is to build a relationship or help solve a problem.
- The types of supportive response commonly used include advising response, judging response, analyzing statements, questioning, comforting, and prompting.
- Other supportive listeners might use reflecting combined with paraphrasing; but before choosing that type of response, they should always consider the situation, the other person, and personal strengths and weaknesses.