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Intimate Relationships, Marriages, and Families

Ninth Edition

Nancy Stinnett, Nick Stinnett, Mary Kay DeGenova, and F. Philip Rice

Publication Date - July 2016

ISBN: 9780190278571

576 pages
Paperback
8 x 10 inches

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Retail Price to Students: $119.99

An accessible, comprehensive introduction to marriage and family with a focus on strengthening families and effective coping strategies

Description

Now fully revised and published by Oxford University Press, Intimate Relationships, Marriages, and Families, Ninth Edition, is an accessible, comprehensive introduction to marriage and family with a focus on strengthening families and effective coping strategies. This text combines the most current research with an emphasis on family background and diversity. Each chapter concludes with a section on public policy and critical-thinking questions.

New to this Edition

  • Revised and updated material, including current research and statistics and newly emerging topics
  • Integrated coverage of cultural diversity throughout the text
  • Updated and expanded information on ethnic and cultural diversity in families, coping with depression, and the relationship between family life and economics
  • A significantly expanded treatment of financial management, with practical suggestions and insights in Chapter 8

About the Author(s)

Nancy Stinnett is Instructor Emerita of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Alabama.

Nick Stinnett is Professor Emeritus of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Alabama.

Mary Kay DeGenova is a former Associate Professor of Family Studies at Central Michigan University and the University of New Hampshire.

F. Philip Rice was Professor Emeritus at the The University of Maine, Orono.

Previous Publication Date(s)

June 2010
September 2006
April 2005

Reviews

"Intimate Relationships, Marriages, and Families is a dynamic text that thoughtfully addresses relationship issues of mate selection, marriage, divorce, and remarriage. The authors provide excellent research throughout the text and challenge the reader to examine the way they make choices."--Anita Glee Bertram, University of Central Oklahoma

"Intimate Relationships, Marriages, and Families not only offers research and information about challenges and changes in families, but also how to cope with them. The personal perspective helps students to apply what they are learning to their own lives."--Christine Nortz, Florida Gateway College

Table of Contents

    Preface

    CHAPTER 1: INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGES, AND FAMILIES IN THE TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY
    Learning Objectives
    What Is a Family?

    Some Definitions
    Family Forms
    --Personal Perspective: A Long 15 Inches
    Changes in Family Philosophy and Emphasis
    From Institution to Companionship
    From Patriarchy to Democracy
    Changes in Marriage and Parenthood
    Marriage Rates
    Median Age
    Family Size
    Working Wives and Mothers
    One-Parent Families
    Cohabitation
    --At Issue Today: Children Not Living with Married Biological Parents
    Gay and Lesbian Families
    Grandparents as Parents
    Changes in Life Expectancy
    Changes in Divorce and Remarriage
    Divorce Rates
    Remarriage Trends
    Blended Families
    Ethnic and Cultural Diversity in Families
    Increased Ethnic Diversity
    Hispanic Americans
    African Americans
    --Ethnic Identity and Acculturation
    Asian/Pacific Islander Americans
    Native Americans
    Theories to Help Explain Family Behavior
    Structural-Functional Theory
    Family Developmental Theory
    --The Importance of Coping
    Symbolic Interaction Theory
    Systems Theory
    Social Learning Theory
    Exchange Theory
    Conflict Theory
    Feminist Theory
    The International Family Strengths Model
    Critique of Family Theories
    The Study of Marriage, Families, and Intimate Relationships
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Qualities of Strong Families
    --A Question of Policy: Gay and Lesbian Parenting by Adoption
    Summary
    Key
    Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 2: GENDER: IDENTITY AND ROLES
    Learning Objectives
    Environmental Influences on Gender

    Societal Expectations
    --Women and Weight: Gendered Messages on Magazine Covers
    Parental Influences
    The Influence of Popular Press, Television, and Movies
    School Influences
    Theories of Gender Role and Identity
    Social Learning Theory
    Cognitive Developmental Theory
    Gender Schema Theory
    Social Structure/Cultural Theories
    Evolutionary Theories
    Biological Theories
    Traditional Masculine and Feminine Stereotypes
    Masculinity
    Femininity
    Problems with Gender Stereotypes
    --Life on the Boundaries of Gender
    Gender Roles and Body Image
    --Cultural Perspective: The Word Machismo
    Race, Class, and Gender
    Changing Roles of Women and Men
    Gender Roles in the Family
    Roles in Marriage
    Housework and Child-Care Roles
    --Do Everyday Things Together
    Gender, Marriage, and Depression
    --Coping with Depression
    Androgyny
    --A Question of Policy: Title IX
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 3: BEING SINGLE
    Learning Objectives
    Categories of Singles

    Voluntary Singles
    Involuntary Singles
    Marital Delay
    Why Some People Remain Single
    Deliberate Choice
    --African American Single Mothers
    Fear of Marriage
    Lack of Opportunity
    Circumstances
    Advantages and Disadvantages of Being Single
    --Avoiding Counterproductive Strategies
    The Health and Well-Being of Singles
    Living Arrangements
    Shared Living Spaces
    Living with Parents
    Living Alone
    Sexual Behavior
    Teens
    Adult Heterosexual Activity
    Same-sex Activity
    Sexual Orientation
    Sexual Attraction
    Selected Health Measures
    --At Issue Today: Friends with Benefits
    Employment and Income
    Single Parents
    Special Issues for Single-Parent Families
    -- Time Together
    The Never-Married Adult
    --Single Fatherhood
    --Funding for Which Sex Education Programs?
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 4: ATTRACTION AND DATING
    Learning Objectives
    Attraction

    Physical Attractiveness
    Standards of Attractiveness
    Personality and Social Factors
    Unconscious Influences
    The Dating System
    Courtship in Early America
    The Emergence of Dating
    Dating at the End of the Twentieth Century
    Dating Today
    Reasons for Dating
    Finding and Meeting Dates

    Personal Ads
    Dating Services and the Internet
    --Cultural Perspective: Arranged Marriages
    Gender Roles in Dating
    Problems in Dating
    Honesty and Openness
    Jealousy and Infidelity
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Strengths of Russian Families
    Getting Too Serious
    Closeness and Distance in Relationships
    --Coping Feature: Coping with Your Own Jealousy
    Violence and Sexual Aggression in Dating
    Gender Differences in Dating Violence
    Psychological and Emotional Effects of Dating Violence
    Date Rape
    --At Issue Today: Date Rape Drugs
    Breaking Up a Relationship
    --Personal Perspective: Lessons Learned from Breaking Up
    --A Question of Policy: Sexual Assault
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 5: LOVE AND MATE SELECTION
    Learning Objectives
    What Is Love?

    Romantic Love
    Is Romantic Love a Sound Basis for Marriage?
    Erotic Love
    Are Love and Sex the Same?
    Sex as an Expression of Love
    Dependent Love
    Maslow's Theory of Love as Need
    Friendship Love
    Loving and Liking
    Altruistic Love
    Fromm's View of Altruistic Love
    Components of Love
    Research on the Components of Love
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Commitment
    Love and Attachment
    Changes over Time
    Theories of Mate Selection
    Psychodynamic Theories
    Needs Theories
    Exchange Theories
    Developmental Process Theories
    --Coping Feature: Happiness
    Family Background Factors in Mate Selection
    Socioeconomic Class
    Education and Intelligence
    Interracial and Interethnic Marriages
    Interfaith Marriages
    Personal Characteristics
    Individual Traits and Behavior
    Age Differentials
    Consensus and Similarity of Attitudes and Values
    Gender Roles and Personal Habits
    Nonmarital Cohabitation
    Patterns of Cohabitation
    --Personal Perspective: Living Together
    The Effect on the Relationship and on Marriage
    The Transition to Marriage
    Why People Marry
    Marital Readiness
    Marriage and the Law
    Preparing for Marriage
    --Cultural Perspective: Chinese Wedding Ceremonies
    Rites of Passage
    Engagement
    The Wedding as a Religious and Civil Rite
    --Wedding Bill Blues
    --Marriage Incentives
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 6: QUALITIES OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
    Learning Objectives
    Criteria for Evaluating Marital Success

    Durability
    Approximation of Ideals
    Fulfillment of Needs
    Satisfaction
    Happy versus Unhappy Marriages
    --How We Appraise the Situation
    --Cultural Perspective: Polygamy
    Sex and a Happy Marriage
    Twelve Characteristics of Successful
    Marriages
    Communication
    Admiration and Respect
    Companionship
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Digging for Diamonds
    Spirituality and Values
    Commitment
    Affection
    The Ability to Deal with Crises and Stress
    Responsibility
    Unselfishness
    --Personal Perspective: Forgiveness
    Empathy and Sensitivity
    Honesty, Trust, and Fidelity
    --At Issue Today: No Time for Love
    Adaptability, Flexibility, and Tolerance
    Premarital Predictors of Marital Quality
    The Newlywed Years as Predictors of Marital Satisfaction
    Why Some People Regret Their Choice of Mate
    --A Question of Policy: Covenant Marriages
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 7: MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS OVER THE FAMILY LIFE CYCLE
    Learning Objectives
    Marriage and Personal Happiness
    The Family Life Cycle

    Data on Family Life Cycles
    Changes in Marital Satisfaction
    Gay and Lesbian Families
    Adjustments Early in Marriage
    --Coping Feature: Half Full or Half Empty?
    Marital Adjustment Tasks
    Problems during Three Early Stages
    Adjustments to Parenthood
    Parenthood and Stress
    --Cultural Perspective: Individualism versus Familism
    Fatherhood and the Life Course
    Adjustments During Middle Adulthood
    Marital Adjustments
    The Postparental Years
    Adjustments During Late Adulthood
    Developmental Tasks
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Go with the Flow
    Marital Satisfaction
    Divorce
    Parent-Adult Child Relationships
    Widowhood
    --Personal Perspective: Widowhood
    --At Issue Today: Who Cares for Older People?
    --A Question of Policy: Nationalized/Universal Health Care
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 8: WORK, FAMILY ROLES, AND MATERIAL RESOURCES
    Learning Objectives
    The American Family Today

    Work, Stress, and the Family
    Positive Benefits of Dual-Earner Families
    Needed: More Time
    --Coping Feature: Time Pressure
    The Parents' Child-Care Role
    Household Labor
    --At Issue Today: The Family and Medical Leave Act
    Marital Adjustment
    Dual-Career Families
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Keep Things in Perspective
    Material Resources
    Financial Strains on Families
    The Gender Wage Gap
    Families and Debt
    Managing Finances
    Poverty and Family Life
    Measuring Poverty
    The Effects of Poverty on Families
    --Race or Economics?
    Homelessness
    --Homeless
    The Feminization of Poverty
    Welfare and the Family
    The Widening Gap between the Rich and the Poor
    --Earned Income Tax Credit
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 9: POWER, DECISION MAKING, AND COMMUNICATION
    Learning Objectives
    The Meaning of Power
    Why People Want Power

    Self-Actualization
    Social Expectations
    Family-of-Origin Influences
    Psychological Need
    Sources of Power
    --Cultural Perspective: Wearing a Veil
    Cultural Norms
    Gender Norms
    Economic Resources
    Education and Knowledge
    Personality Differences
    Communication Ability
    Emotional Factors
    Physical Stature and Strength
    Life Circumstances
    Children
    Marital Power Patterns
    --Coping Feature: The Need for Control
    Power Processes
    Power Tactics That Help
    Power Tactics That Can Help or Harm
    Power Tactics That Harm
    --Personal Perspective: How Do You Stop a Psychological Game?
    Consequences of Power Struggles
    Communication

    Verbal and Nonverbal Communication
    Barriers to Communication
    --At Issue Today: Facebook, Text Messaging, and Beer
    Improving Communication Skills
    Taking Time
    Motivation and Concern
    Empathy
    Content
    Self-Disclosure
    Clarity
    Listening
    Feedback
    Arguing Constructively
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Listen
    --A Question of Policy: The Power of Federal Judges
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 10: SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS
    Learning Objectives
    Sexuality
    Sexual Myths

    Myth 1: Sexual Satisfaction Increases with Multiple Partners
    Myth 2: Sexual Satisfaction Is Determined by Frequency of Sexual Intercourse
    Myth 3: Sex during Menstruation Should Be Avoided
    Myth 4: Sex during Pregnancy Should Be Avoided
    Myth 5: Men Are Always Confident about and Ready for Sex
    --A Cross-Cultural View of Sexual Behavior
    Myth 6: Women Are Not Very Interested in Sex
    Myth 7: A Careful Person Will Never Get Caught in an Extramarital Affair
    Negative Consequences of Sexual Activity
    Unplanned Pregnancy
    Sexually Transmitted Diseases
    Confusing Sex with Love
    --Attachment Styles and Sexual Relationships
    Staying in a Relationship Longer than Desirable
    Emotional Vulnerability
    Manipulation and Power Games
    Sexual Response
    The Masters and Johnson Sexual Response Model
    The Kaplan Sexual Response Model
    Gender Differences in Sexual Response
    Sexual Desire
    Sexual Arousal
    Proceeding through Sexual Response Stages at Different Speeds
    Resolution Stage
    Orgasm
    Factors Contributing to a Fulfilling Sexual Relationship
    Intimacy
    Commitment
    Psychological Comfort
    Good Communication
    --Communication and Sexual Relationships
    Knowledge of the Sexual Response Cycle
    Emphasis on the Enjoyment of Each Other Rather than Performance
    Good Mental and Physical Health
    Sexuality and Aging
    The Female Climacteric
    Hormone Replacement Therapy For Women
    The Male Climacteric
    --An Affair? Consider the Consequences
    Hormone Replacement Therapy for Men
    Getting through the Change-of-Life Period More Successfully
    Sexual Disorders
    Sexual Addiction
    Hypoactive Sexual Desire
    Vaginismus
    Female Orgasmic Disorder
    Male Orgasmic Disorder
    Dyspareunia
    Erectile Disorder
    Premature Ejaculation
    Alcohol and Drugs
    Sexually Transmitted Diseases
    Chlamydia
    --Unsafe Sex Practices: Why So Prevalent?
    Gonorrhea
    Syphilis
    Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
    Herpes
    Hepatitis
    Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)
    Vaginitis
    Pediculosis
    --Internet Pornography
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 11: FAMILY PLANNING AND PARENTHOOD
    Learning Objectives
    The Importance of Family Planning

    --Family Strengths Perspective: What Is a Strong Family?
    Hormonal Control
    Oral Contraceptives
    Other Forms of Hormonal Contraceptives
    --The Abortion Pill
    Vaginal Spermicides
    Intrauterine Devices
    Barrier Methods

    Condoms
    Diaphragm
    Cervical Cap
    Contraceptive Sponge
    Sterilization
    Vasectomy
    Female Sterilization
    Fertility Awareness
    Calendar Methods
    Withdrawal
    Noncoital Stimulation (Outercourse)
    Choosing a Method of Contraception
    Abortion
    Legal Considerations
    Moral Considerations
    Social and Realistic Considerations
    Psychological and Personal Considerations
    Cultural Perspective: A Preference for Males
    Infertility
    Causes of Infertility
    Infertility and Subjective Well-Being
    Treatment of Infertility
    Coping Feature: Coping with Infertility
    Alternative Means of Conception
    The Adoption Option
    Personal Perspective: Reasons for Having Children
    The Foster Care Option
    To Parent or Not to Parent
    Delayed Parenthood
    Choosing a Child-Free Marriage
    --A Question of Policy: Embryos
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For
    Further Reading

    CHAPTER 12: PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH
    Learning Objectives
    Pregnancy

    Signs and Symptoms of Pregnancy
    Tests for Pregnancy
    Calculating the Expected Date of Birth
    Emotional Reactions to Pregnancy
    Prenatal Care
    Importance of Prenatal Care
    Nutrition during Pregnancy
    General Health Care during Pregnancy
    Environmental Hazards
    Minor Side Effects of Pregnancy
    Major Complications of Pregnancy
    --Cultural Perspective: The Use of Ultrasounds
    Sexual Relations during Pregnancy
    Mental Health
    Prenatal Development
    The Germinal Period
    The Embryonic Period
    The Fetal Period
    Prepared Childbirth
    The Lamaze Method
    --At Issue Today: Options for Delivery
    Labor and Delivery
    Stages of Labor
    The Postpartum Period
    Care of the Newborn
    Parent-Infant Contact and Bonding
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Bonding with Baby
    Rooming-In
    Postpartum Adjustments
    Returning to Work
    --Coping Feature: Becoming a Parent
    --Personal Perspective: Postpartum Depression
    Sexual Relations after Childbirth
    --A Question of Policy: Substance Abuse by Pregnant Women
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 13: PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
    Learning Objectives
    Philosophies of Child Rearing

    Parental Differences
    Value Differences
    Parent-Child Differences
    Cultural Differences
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Botho
    Life Circumstances
    --Cultural Perspective: Cultural Conflict and Acculturation
    Differences in Children
    Stress and Children
    Fostering Cognitive and Intellectual Growth
    --Personal Perspective: Serendipity
    Parental Contributions
    Language Development and Cultivation
    Educational Goals
    Meeting Emotional Needs
    Emotional Attachments
    Autonomy
    Connectedness
    Identity
    --At Issue Today: Family Happiness and Material Wealth
    Child Care
    Social Competence, Socialization, and Discipline
    Meaning and Goals of Discipline
    Principles of Discipline
    --Coping Feature: The Stress of Discipline
    Discipline Styles
    Corporal Punishment
    --A Question of Policy: Family-Friendly Policies
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for
    Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 14: PARENTS AND EXTENDED FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
    Learning Objectives
    Parent-Adult Child Relationships

    When Parents Disapprove of Choice of Partner
    Children's Identification with Parents
    Interdependence between Generations
    --Cultural Perspective: Emerging Adulthood
    Parent-Adult Child Relationships and Psychological Functioning
    Elder Care
    --Personal Perspective: Mother-Daughter Relationships
    In-Laws
    Successful In-Law Relationships
    The Roots of Conflict
    --Family Strengths Perspective: Family Reunion
    Living with Parents or In-Laws
    Effects of Coresidence
    --Coping Feature: Reframing
    Sources of Stress
    Grandparents
    --At Issue Today: Fictive Kinship
    What Grandparents Can Do for Grandchildren
    Grandparents Who Parent Their Grandchildren
    Adolescents, Young Adults, and Grandparents
    What Grandchildren Can Do for Grandparents
    Adult Sibling Relationships
    --Grandparents' Rights
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 15: CONFLICT, FAMILY CRISES, AND CRISIS MANAGEMENT
    Learning Objectives
    Conflict and Children

    The Family Environment
    Interparent Conflict
    Sources of Conflict
    Personal Sources
    Physical Sources
    Interpersonal Sources
    Situational or Environmental Sources
    Methods of Dealing with Conflict
    Avoidance
    --What Would You Like to Change about the Way You Deal with Conflict?
    Ventilation and Catharsis
    Constructive and Destructive Conflicts
    Levels of Marital Conflict Model
    Family Crises
    Stage 1: Onset
    Stage 2: Disorganization
    --Search for Meaning in Tough Times
    Stage 3: Reorganization
    What Helps?
    The Crisis of Infidelity
    Reasons for Infidelity
    --Affair-Proofing Your Marriage
    --Cheating in Cyberspace
    Affairs as Crises for Married People
    The Crisis of Economic Distress
    Types of Economic Distress
    Effects on Individuals and on Family Relationships
    Coping with Economic Distress
    --Cultural Perspective: The Crisis of Immigration
    The Crisis of Addictions
    Characteristics of Addiction
    Reasons for Addiction
    Effects on the Family
    Overcoming Addiction: The Addicted Person
    Overcoming Addiction: The Family and the Addicted Person Working Together
    The Crisis of Violence and Abuse
    Factors Related to Violence
    Child Maltreatment
    Treatment for Spouse and Child Abuse
    Detecting Child Maltreatment
    Elder Abuse
    The Crisis of Death and Grief
    --Abused and Neglected Children
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 16: THE FAMILY AND DIVORCE
    Learning Objectives
    Probability of Divorce: Social and Demographic Factors

    Marital Age
    Religion
    Socioeconomic Status
    Geographic Area
    Parental Divorce
    The Presence of Children
    Quality of Marriage and Parent-Child Relationships
    Causes of Marital Breakup
    Spouses' Perceptions
    The Marital Disaffection Process
    The Divorce Decision
    Alternatives to Divorce
    --Getting Divorced
    Marriage Counseling
    Marriage Enrichment
    Separation
    --Why Marriage Counseling Sometimes Does Not Succeed
    No-Fault Divorce and Mediation
    --Adjustment to Divorce
    Adult Adjustments after Divorce
    Emotional Trauma
    Societal Attitudes toward Divorce
    Loneliness and Social Readjustment
    Adjustments to Custody Arrangements
    Finances
    Realignment of Responsibilities and Work Roles
    Contacts with the Ex-Spouse
    --Coping Feature: Anger
    Kinship Interaction
    Children and Divorce
    Child Custody
    --Forgiveness and Conflict-Resolution Skills
    Child Support
    Visitation Rights
    Reactions of Children
    Adjustments of Children
    --Divorce and the Single-Mother Family
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading


    CHAPTER 17: COMING TOGETHER: REMARRIAGE AND STEPPARENTING
    Learning Objectives
    Remarriage

    Divorce or Success in Remarriage?
    --Happy vs. Unhappy Stepcouples
    Courtship and Mate Selection in Remarriage
    Preparing for Remarriage
    Facets of Remarriage
    Challenges of Remarriage
    Complex Relationships
    Ambiguous Family Boundaries
    Ambiguous Cultural Norms
    Carrying Expectations from One Marriage to Another
    --Merging Families and Finances
    Finances
    Relationships with the Ex-Spouse
    Family Relationships from a Previous Marriage
    --Coping Feature: Humor
    Stepfamilies
    Stepfathers
    Stepfamily Turning Points
    Stepparent-Stepchild Relationships
    --Stepfamilies in Cultural Context
    Child Well-Being in Stepfamilies
    Facilitating Bonds between Stepparents and Stepchildren
    Coparents and Parenting Coalitions
    Stepsibling Relationships
    --Personal Perspective: Being a Stepmom
    --A Question of Policy: Stepfamily Rights
    Summary
    Key Terms
    Questions for Thought
    For Further Reading



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